Gender Blenders Policies and Code of Conduct
Our intention for this document is so that we can all step foot on the Playa on the same page.
Maintaining a Safe Space:
One of the biggest policies we have as a camp is that everyone has agency over their own body and that consent is required all of the time. As camp mates we agree to always ask for consent, not only in sexual engagement but in general interactions with each other.
What is consent?
In order to give informed consent, the individual(s) concerned must have adequate reasoning faculties and be in possession of all relevant facts at the time consent is given. Impairments to reasoning and judgment may make it impossible for someone to give informed consent.
- Consent is thinking about whether your actions may infringe on someone else’s feelings of safety and enjoyment of a situation that includes, but not limited to:
- engaging in sexual activity
- physical contact (e.g. hugs)
- recording someone’s likeness (e.g. taking photos, video/audio recordings)
- watching someone’s actions (e.g. voyeurism)
- Consent can be withdrawn at any time
- Consent cannot be assumed because of previous relationships and/or sexual interactions
- The absence of “no” is not the same thing as consent
- If someone does withdraw consent, act gracefully and thank them for taking care of themselves
- The absence of “no” is not the same thing as consent
- Permission as a result of coercion, intimidation, threat of force or force is not consent.
- If someone is obviously impaired, or you suspect that their judgment is impaired, err on the side of caution and do not engage in any activity where consent should be obtained.
- Get a verbal affirmation before engaging in any sexual activity (even just to watch) with that person, or persons in the case of a threesome, foursome, or just real luckysome!
- And remember, Consent is Sexy! And Consent is Mandatory!
Our mission is to be sex positive but not to be exclusively a sex camp. We are a camp that supports sexuality, kink, BDSM, fetishes, cuddle puddles, making out and all manner of sexual expression. We are also committed to creating non-sexual safe spaces.
We are committed to respecting each others differences, using non-discriminatory language, respectful communication, and learning and engaging in each others differences and not judging the awesome that makes us all who we are.
We are committed to using Non-Violent Communication whenever possible (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nonviolent_Communication) yes, we are this woo.
Gender Blenders is a non-violent community. When we are within our community, our non-violence policy is enforced. This includes on-Playa, as well as all off-Playa functions that could be construed as ‘within’ the community, including, but not limited to: beers at your local pub, travel to and from the playa, fundraisers etc.
We will not tolerate disrespect of consent, and abuse, be it verbal, emotional, or physical. We are committed to Restorative Justice instead of punitive measures. Restorative justice emphasizes repairing the harm caused by crime. When victims, offenders and community members meet to decide how to do that, the results can be transformational.
Although campers may be asked not to participate in events, all members are still considered part of the community, outside of extreme circumstances. (Police action, restraining order).
In the event of an altercation, we will do our best to:
- Remove all participants from the scene with a buddy for a cooling off period.
- We will do what we can to immediately mediate the conversation with a designated* mediator. Where that is not possible we will table that conversation and revisit it within a month after the incident, when we can have a meeting with all affected parties and a mediator.
- If further action is necessary after this first mediation, another mediation will be held 3-4 months after the incident, allowing for healing, self-reflection, and restoration.
- If mediation is not possible, a village council would be held and that council will be held to review the incident and would decide what happens with the campers involved and their future within the camp community.
*any camp member with mediation experience, and feels willing and able can become a designated mediator. These people are not necessarily the camp leads, there can be any number of designated mediators but we will as camp try to have at least 2. please contact the camp leaders if you feel you can take on this role.
If the person is in a leadership position and if initial mediation is not possible, that person needs to step down from that leadership position.
If a camper is asked to leave the camp during the Burn, we are committed to helping them find another safe place to camp.
We are all sexy, sexy people and we all like to date each other, in the event of a break-up or inter-personal issue, we are available to mediate and figure out how to navigate sharing space on-Playa.
Incidents should be brought to the attention to the leadership team as soon as possible after they occur.
Camper emails and contact information should not be distributed outside of the group without explicit consent from the camper(s).
No camper should be removed from the social networking sites, unless they are making that site unsafe or using it inappropriately.
Be respectful in your communications on our social networks.
Be careful. There are local, state and federal agents in BRC; all local, state, and federal laws pertaining to the use of drugs are still in effects.
No smoking of any kind in the dome. No use of illegal substances in any public spaces provided by camp.
Have a commitment to self-care, which could include having a buddy, or letting people know you may need help. Have a commitment to the safety of the community, speak up if you feel someone might help.
Gender Blenders planning is conducted by the Gender Blenders Leadership Team consisting of at least 2 Blenders. They will act as project managers (cat herders) with consensus style of leadership. Blenders may volunteer to join the Leadership Team after their first year.